Emma’s birth was far from what I had imagined and every moment of it was absolutely mind blowing. I had planned to have a complete natural birth without medication, but it didn't really go as planned! I restrained myself from hearing birth stories because I hadn’t heard any positive experiences. I was entering week 40 and had another check up to see the progress of the baby. I went in for a normal check up, expecting the same answer from the doctor, but to our surprise she exclaimed that I was 4cm dilated and I’ll be expecting her soon. Little did I know that I was giving birth to her the very next day! I went back home after the check up, completed setting up the nursery, and rested.
That very night I felt stronger contractions but was mentally able to push through the pain. Around 5 in the morning the next day, I woke up again with pain that was unbearable so I woke up my husband and told him we needed to go to the hospital. If you know my husband, he’s one to freak out easily, so there were one too many times I had to tell him to calm down. Haha
Our 15 minute car ride to the hospital seemed like an eternity! We arrived at the hospital around 5:30 in the morning. It felt like we were shooting a scene for a TV show (it really is that dramatic) We were welcomed with a few warm smiles and was directed to my room. Shortly after I entered the room, I was placed on a bed with a hospital gown on me. How did all of this happen? Everything happened so fast..
After the initial admittance, I was already at 6 cm according to my nurse. If you are unaware of the birthing process, you need to be at 10 cm in order for you to start pushing. I was so shocked at the fact that I stuck through the pain up until this time, but it definitely got to the point where I could not take it anymore. My mind was telling me not to use medication, but my body was telling me otherwise. I had to get the epidural. As I mentioned in the beginning, I wanted a complete natural birth without medication, but this process usually doesn't go as planned! I praise those who are able to go the natural route, because having 30 second contractions every minute is definitely a huge battle to overcome. As soon as I got the epidural, everything was smooth sailing from there- all that was left was for us to wait for our baby girl!
Finally around 1pm, I was at 10cm and was able to push our little baby girl out. Luckily, I only had to push for about 20 minutes and we had our baby girl. The actual pushing was the most odd experience. Due to the medication, I couldn't feel my lower half of my body and didn't know how hard I was pushing. Every push was a struggle and finally at 1:27 we welcomed our baby girl into this world.
The most resounding thing I could remember that day was my husband telling me that everything was going to be okay and that I'll do great! Those words meant the world to me and I was so thankful to have such an amazing man who supported me through this new life event.
This experience was the most amazing, life-changing time ever and I would do it again and again for this little babe of mine. All in all, I wanted to share my birth experience to say it wasn’t all too bad. A word of advice to all the mama’s giving birth, keep calm, trust your body, and eat before- haha!
Words from the husband
Don't freak out! Be her anchor and support. Not just for the day of the birth, but throughout the whole pregnancy. Looking back at what my wife went through, I can’t imagine how it would feel like to carry a living, breathing human being inside of you for 10 months. This is an amazing feat that women go through that men would never understand. Lastly, tell her she’s beautiful no matter what she looks like through this process. She’s your soul mate and now mother to your child- she deserves the best.